I would like to write this post about my number one supporter. During years of sinning that destroyed my marriage. I say destroyed my marriage because there wasn’t a marriage–I held my wife a prisoner–against her will with me. She had no idea the depth of my sin. She had no idea the struggle within. She had no way of knowing the secrets I held. How could she have? This would be impossible!
I was a liar, when she sought the truth. I was hiding, when she was searching. She prayed when I couldn’t. She was faithful when I wasn’t. She cried so many tears when I didn’t care. I sought divorce when she sought reconciliation. Sylvia! My number one supporter! The love of my life! The one who cried to the Lord when I couldn’t cry myself!
An excellent wife who can find? She is far more precious than jewels (Proverbs 31:10). If only I knew what I had in the beginning of our marriage! If only I wasn’t so immature, selfish, self–centered, narrow minded, stupid, foolish and a host of other words that describe my ridiculous behavior! The above verse is clear that to find an excellent wife is not an easy task–“who can find,” indicating that not many, “can find” an “excellent wife.”
And in finding this “excellent wife,” is not only a great accomplishment, but “far” more “precious” than “jewels!” Wow! Wealth, power, ease of living, anything you can buy, popularity, all pale in comparison to finding an excellent wife.
The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain. She does him good, and not harm, all the days of her life (Proverbs 31:11). If I only knew how to trust in her so that I had no, “lack of gain,” that I attempted to seek elsewhere! She loved me and “did no harm” to me as I disrespected her in many ways. I said with my mouth, “I love you,” then turned and devoured her with this same tongue!
Sylvia, you are my number one supporter. You kept your eyes focused when my eyes where blind. You ran to the Lord when I ran away. You sang in your prayers when I cursed His name. Oh, how true, to find an excellent wife is far more than jewels. I would rather have nothing, and an excellent wife, than “jewels” and a foolish one. Sylvia, today, you know me better than anyone and you believe me when I say, “I love you with every ounce of my heart.”
Happy Birthday my love!!!
Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her (Ephesians 5:25)
Author: Erick Hurt
From a slave to sin–to freedom in Christ (Galatians 5:1). From an abusive husband verbally and physically–to loving my wife as Christ loved the church (Ephesians 5:25). Now an Elder at Family Bible Church, I speak, teach, and preach with the same passion I once had for sin. I work as a volunteer for Setting Captives Free ministry as a mentor and mentor coordinator helping people become freed from the grip of sin. Visit www.settingcaptivesfree.com.