You remember it like it was yesterday. You could feel your heart beating inside your chest as you were minutes away from the two words that would bind the two of you together forever–I do!
This is what it is supposed to be, isn’t it? Two willing souls joined as one flesh? “And the two shall become one flesh” (Genesis 2:24). The excitement we had on that day was incomparable to any other day. It was no ordinary day. It was a change in the way you operate for the rest of your life, or until “death do us part.” And even death itself is only a temporary separation for the Christian.
So how can we begin to live out the vows we promised to uphold? In sickness and in health? Rich or poor? Good and bad times? And whatever other vows we made? We must adhere to the One that knit us together in our mothers womb (Psalm 139:13). The One that gave us everything we need for life and godliness (2 Peter 1:3). God, the One who spoke and the universe exploded into existence (Genesis 1:1). Is the same God that knit us together and gives us everything we need. He is the Creator of all things including marriage. Therefore we would be missing all that He has for us if we did not look into His Word.
18 Then the Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.” 19 Now out of the ground the Lord God had formed every beast of the field and every bird of the heavens and brought them to the man to see what he would call them. And whatever the man called every living creature, that was its name. 20 The man gave names to all livestock and to the birds of the heavens and to every beast of the field. But for Adam there was not found a helper fit for him. 21 So the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man, and while he slept took one of his ribs and closed up its place with flesh. 22 And the rib that the Lord God had taken from the man he made into a woman and brought her to the man. 23 Then the man said,
“This at last is bone of my bones
and flesh of my flesh;
she shall be called Woman,
because she was taken out of Man.”
24 Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.
The man and woman become, “one flesh” in this beautiful marital union. The woman being made “out of” the man’s rib. This account is so amazing! God wanted us to realize the value of the man and woman, and the value of a one flesh marriage. Originally, they were part of each other physically, and united in communion with God spiritually. Matthew Henry gives great insight with his quote.
“That the woman was made of a rib out of the side of Adam; not made out of his head to rule over him, nor out of his feet to be trampled upon by him, but out of his side to be equal with him, under his arm to be protected, and near his heart to be beloved.”
So in everything we do as a married couple should be done with this “one flesh” unity in mind. That was the original design. That was the vow we took. And what can divide this one flesh union? Nothing! How is it possible to divide once becoming one flesh? It is an impermeable barrier! A United Front! Inseparable! Two against ALL if necessary! In-laws, kids, family, and all others! We must work as one in everything we do. We must stand together and not allow anything or anyone to divide us! We must wrestle together to work out issues. And with wrestling there are never punches thrown, or eyes gouged out, or blood drawn. No, with wrestling you hold on and never let go! You hold on as you work out the details of your life, together!
God took a part of Adam’s rib to hand craft the woman Eve. And in God bringing her to him, Adam would literally be putting a part of himself away, if he were to get rid of his wife. Likewise, this is how we should view our “one flesh” union. When our vows left our mouths and landed on our spouses heart–it was forever! A new life! Together! Forever!
Author: Erick Hurt
From a slave to sin–to freedom in Christ (Galatians 5:1). From an abusive husband verbally and physically–to loving my wife as Christ loved the church (Ephesians 5:25). Now an Elder at Family Bible Church, I speak, teach, and preach with the same passion I once had for sin. I work as a volunteer for Setting Captives Free ministry as a mentor and mentor coordinator helping people become freed from the grip of sin. Visit www.settingcaptivesfree.com.