When you said, “I do,” did you realize the power of two becoming one? A joining of two separate identities. Two human beings joined together as one in a lifetime commitment called marriage. It is working together as one and becoming more than you thought you could be. It is a lifetime of learning. It is a lifetime of building into each other. When you hurt he hurt’s. When you hurt she hurt’s. This is what it means to become one, right? Knowing one another better than any other. Knowing the good and bad and choosing to love in spite of the lack of perfection. What can be done in a marriage if two willing participants put forth the effort is nothing short of a marriage that becomes a “United Front” where together you can accomplish anything!
You where married prior to the arrival of children and you will be together after their departure. So standing together as one in all and everything you do is the key to having this United Front. Standing together will require some give and take for the both of you, with less of oneself and a greater focus on the one you said you would love for the rest of your life. In everything you do you strive in agreement. Not allowing anything to hinder your progress to a greater union. Not allowing others to come between the two of you.
You should be a United Front in your finances, in your sexual union, in your decisions about the children, and everything in between! We all know couples who have separate checking accounts, for example, yet they miss out on striving together as “one,” becoming a greater team with a more targeted focus on their finances. Another example would be allowing the children or family members to begin to divide your one flesh union. Jesus made this clear to his hearers when he went back to Genesis.
3 And Pharisees came up to him and tested him by asking, “Is it lawful to divorce one’s wife for any cause?” 4 He answered, “Have you not read that he who created them from the beginning made them male and female, 5 and said, ‘Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’? 6 So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.”
The term “they are not longer two but one flesh,” should be a great reminder of what could be done in the marriage If we put our hearts and minds together to form a United Front! Willing and ready to take on any and every battle that may come our way. Generally speaking, sex and money will be the two biggest arguments married couples will have. Can you even image a day when that is not the case with you? Focusing on all aspects of life together with this in mind will change the way you operate in your one flesh marriage. You will become a “United Front!,” where together you can accomplish anything!
Author: Erick Hurt
From a slave to sin–to freedom in Christ (Galatians 5:1). From an abusive husband verbally and physically–to loving my wife as Christ loved the church (Ephesians 5:25). Now an Elder at Family Bible Church, I speak, teach, and preach with the same passion I once had for sin. I work as a volunteer for Setting Captives Free ministry as a mentor and mentor coordinator helping people become freed from the grip of sin. Visit www.settingcaptivesfree.com.