When we think of “our story,” we are reminded that everyone has a story to tell, don’t we? We’ve all been through, or going through “life” building our stories. We are so amazed at where we are now, compared to when we first married. We married at a young age and had no idea the life we were about to undertake. And an undertaking it was! Take It With You.
So there we stood just minutes away from the vows we would later regret. I was 20 and she was 19. We met at church by a mutual friend who introduced us. She was beautiful, bubbly, had a beautiful smile! She was attractive, a Christian, and her personality, I mean, I couldn’t resist! I seemed like a fair catch (to her anyway) but it wouldn’t take long for her to see differently.
There we were on the beaches of Hawaii on our honeymoon one day after tying the marital knot. Walking on the beach on your honeymoon should be a time a newly married couple enjoys. Not for us! I was to busy revealing my true heart of lust! Where my new bride saw the signs of a marriage already in its first stage of decay! I was busy looking around at other women on the beaches before noticing, “my wife,” was thirty feet in front of me! The Truth About Lust.
One day after we got married!
Our marriage was set up for failure!
We never had a chance to survive!
We were doomed from the beginning!
“When I was 5 years old my dad took
my brothers and I to an x-rated movie”
When I was around 8 or 9 I found a stack of magazines that would change my life forever. Then I would seek them out with other forms of perversion for the next 25 years. My mind was perverted by the massive intake of images. Looking and lusting became a way of life. That’s why my marriage never had a chance, I was well-practiced in sexual immorality long before meeting my precious Sylvia!
It should be no surprise that I wasn’t a good candidate for marriage!
My life was all about me. All about “my pleasures.” My wife was secondary. Think about this with me for a moment (before casting stones). If your life was anything like mine, you have become a taker too! Everything revolves around you, you are number one! More interested in fulfilling the lusts of your own flesh. Lusting after other women. Polluting your mind with images of others, rather than the “one” you said you would love forever. And that’s the real test isn’t it, lusting after someone other than your spouse?
“When I was 12 years old pornography had a
powerful hold on me. I became enslaved in it’s chains.
I would not escape for 25 years”
My struggle with lust, pornography, adultery, etc., led me to write an article called, The Flames Of Lust–and unfortunately lead to my wife’s broken heart and a dysfunctional marriage. When you become a slave to sin (as I was) you must listen to your master and obey. The years I practiced sin set my marriage up for failure! Set my wife and I on a course neither one of us would have intentionally gone. It’s only by the grace of God that we survived! Only by the grace of God that we have a story to tell.
Erick and Sylvia Hurt in 2003. The power of sin
was broken and Erick was free from the grip of
pornography. I Hate Porn Ask Me Why.
A TESTIMONY OF FREEDOM
My life was full of the “works of the flesh” as described in Galatians 5:19-21, “sexual immorality, impurity, sensuality, idolatry, sorcery, enmity, strife, jealousy, fits of anger, rivalries, dissensions, divisions, envy, drunkenness, orgies, and things like these.” I was full of, “anger, wrath, malice, slander, and obscene talk,” as described in Colossians 3:8. I had a raging anger, foul mouth and was a violent man verbally and physically to my precious Sylvia.
Most embarrassing to me was my raging anger, foul mouth, and obvious disrespect towards my wife. Oh how miserable I must have made this woman! How could she have taken it?! She stood on the promises of God when her husband was far off! She cried out to God for me to return. She sang to the Lord, “can you reach my friend, you’re the only one who can.” (A song she played for me when I came to my senses).
From the age of twelve to thirty-seven I was a slave to sin, “everyone who practices sin is a slave to sin” (John 8:34). I thought I would take my secret sin to my grave in silence. That was my life. But God had other plans. He lifted me up when I had no power to pull myself. On a night of looking at images on a computer screen, I stared off toward the wall and coming to my senses said, “If I had the passion to serve God, like I have passion for pornography, I would be unstoppable.” My Favorite Quote
After seventeen years of nights filled with rage towards my beautiful Sylvia. After being tormented in my mind, and the destruction of my wife, God came down to rescue me. I learned how to walk in His grace…His Spirit…His strength. He broke the power of sin in my life.
If I could do it over again, what advice would I give or what would I do differently? I would not keep any secrets. I would not bring this sin into my marriage. I would not fill my life with the things that left me empty. Jesus said, “I am the bread of life; whoever comes to me shall not hunger, and whoever believes in me shall never thirst” (John 6:35). We need to be careful what we hunger and thirst for! To “never thirst” is to find complete satisfaction in Jesus Christ alone.
Everything changes when you experience the risen Lord! All your attitudes! All your self-centered desires! We all suffer from the same addiction. We are addicted to self. There’s no comparison to the victory in freedom! No comparison to walking in the light! No comparison to walking in the Spirit! No comparison to being freed from the slavery to sin!
Seek God with all that you are! Beg for true repentance! And find the rest that your soul has been longing for! Jesus said, “If you hold to my teaching, you are really my disciples. Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free” (John 8:31,32). Hold to his teaching!