My Wife Sylvia

25. November 2014 Marriage 6
My Wife Sylvia

I would like to write this post about my number one supporter. During years of sinning that destroyed my marriage. I say destroyed my marriage because there wasn’t a marriage–I held my wife a prisoner–against her will with me. She had no idea the depth of my sin. She had no idea the struggle within. She had no way of knowing the secrets I held. How could she have? This would be impossible!

I was a liar, when she sought the truth. I was hiding, when she was searching. She prayed when I couldn’t. She was faithful when I wasn’t. She cried so many tears when I didn’t care. I sought divorce when she sought reconciliation. Sylvia! My number one supporter! The love of my life! The one who cried to the Lord when I couldn’t cry myself!

An excellent wife who can find? She is far more precious than jewels (Proverbs 31:10). If only I knew what I had in the beginning of our marriage! If only I wasn’t so immature, selfish, self–centered, narrow minded, stupid, foolish and a host of other words that describe my ridiculous behavior! The above verse is clear that to find an excellent wife is not an easy task–“who can find,” indicating that not many, “can find” an “excellent wife.”

And in finding this “excellent wife,” is not only a great accomplishment, but “far” more “precious” than “jewels!” Wow! Wealth, power, ease of living, anything you can buy, popularity, all pale in comparison to finding an excellent wife.

The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain. She does him good, and not harm, all the days of her life (Proverbs 31:11). If I only knew how to trust in her so that I had no, “lack of gain,” that I attempted to seek elsewhere! She loved me and “did no harm” to me as I disrespected her in many ways. I said with my mouth, “I love you,” then turned and devoured her with this same tongue!

Sylvia, you are my number one supporter. You kept your eyes focused when my eyes where blind. You ran to the Lord when I ran away. You sang in your prayers when I cursed His name. Oh, how true, to find an excellent wife is far more than jewels. I would rather have nothing, and an excellent wife, than “jewels” and a foolish one. Sylvia, today, you know me better than anyone and you believe me when I say, “I love you with every ounce of my heart.”

Happy Birthday my love!!!


Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her (Ephesians 5:25)

Author: Erick Hurt

​From a slave to sin–to freedom in Christ (Galatians 5:1). From an abusive husband verbally and physically–to loving my wife as Christ loved the church (Ephesians 5:25). Now an Elder at Family Bible Church, I speak, teach, and preach with the same passion I once had for sin. I work as a volunteer for Setting Captives Free ministry as a mentor and mentor coordinator helping people become freed from the grip of sin. Visit

6 thoughts on “My Wife Sylvia”

  • 1
    Steve Smalley on November 25, 2014 Reply

    Amazing post Brother! I am so, so grateful for my wife. What an awesome God we serve. What a gift our wives are to us! Andi, like Sylvia, has endured a lot but always knew that it didn’t matter so much how we acted but how they responded…with prayer and fasting.

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    Peter Ernst on November 25, 2014 Reply

    Speechless! Well done. Well said. Well lived. Thank you both for your godly example to all of us. I share your heart. To know all our wives know about us and to still love us and remain faithful and even proud of us, to respect and honor us when we were not respectable or honorable is breathtaking in its scope and depths. I Cherish my beloved wife and life partner now for 37 years. I Ann undeserving of her and grateful too to the Lord for such an amazing wife and partner. As men we need to live more in that daily attitude of gratitude. Thank you Erick! I love you brother!

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    Erick Hurt on November 27, 2014 Reply

    I almost didn’t post this, haha! I didn’t realize the overall impact it would have. I just wanted to bless my number one supporter. She was blessed beyond what I thought she would be. May this motivate others to hope, forgiveness, and a continued appreciation of what they have!

  • 4
    brattybabs on December 6, 2014 Reply

    Thank you eric for being so transparent, after 26 years of marriage we are in the thick of this battle. This post gives me hope.

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      Erick Hurt on December 6, 2014 Reply

      I’m so glad this post gives you hope. One of the greatest gifts husbands like us can have, is a woman who sets the example of living for Jesus Christ. Although never admitting it, Sylvia’s example spoke into my life when at times I’m sure she wanted to throw the towel in.

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    Your wife on December 6, 2014 Reply

    What a beautiful post from a man I call ‘my husband, my friend’ . I am reminded as I read about our past experiences and past hardships, how often the Lord carried me through the sand. In I Thess. 5: 16, 17 “rejoice always, pray without ceasing”- This verse was a reminder to me as I carried it each and every morning, noon & night. It was a reminder to me to never give up no matter how alone I felt or how exhausted I was. I had no choice but to remain faithful in my prayers for my struggling husband, always hanging onto hope. He needed a Savior. It was the power of the Holy Spirit that gave me the strength to persevere and never give up on my marriage. Psalms 28: 7 sums it all up, “The Lord is my strength and my shield, my heart trusts in Him, and I am helped. Therefore my heart exults, And with song I shall thank Him”. Our marriage is nothing I did, but everything the Lord Jesus Christ did, has done and will continue to do. I love you Mr. Hurt to the moon and back…

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