“I will make a helper suitable for him” (Genesis 2:18).
God handcrafted Eve for Adam because there wasn’t a suitable helper for him. After all that God had done in His amazing creative masterpiece–there was no suitable helper for Adam. Then God, in His creative genius, handcrafted or fashioned a woman from his rib. Make no mistake by thinking this woman (or any other) is or has become lower than man.
The woman is given the honor of being the last of God’s creation. God would then bring this “jewel” he created to Adam and they would unite the first marital union (Proverbs 31:10; Genesis 2:22). “The Lord God…brought her to the man” (Genesis 2:22). And Adam excited to see what God had created from his rib professed these words;
“This at last is bone of my bones
and flesh of my flesh;
she shall be called Woman,
because she was taken out of Man” (Genesis 2:23)
Certainly you can remember that day as well. Your knees shaking and your voice cracking as you patiently waited for your fiance’ to take that long journey into your arms to become your wife.
It was only a few short months (or just a day after getting married in my case) or maybe you made it through your first year with very little bruising. However long it’s been the inevitable has most likely taken place. Work and other demands have taken more and more of your time spent with the one you took as your wife. It’s not the end of the world (not yet anyway) she’ll let you know when that day comes. Honestly, why didn’t we learn as much as we could before getting married? I mean, where’s the manual?
Why do we treat marriage as “on the job” training! Why is it taken so lightly? Without training, teaching or learning in some form or capacity, we wouldn’t be seen by that Doctor, would we? But with marriage we quickly fall for and move in before actually knowing the person in a deep and intimate way. I hope my next surgeon isn’t there to learn his skills this way. I’m afraid I’ll have to live with my ailment. An “on the job” training surgeon will never touch this body without training, knowledge, teaching, practice and a degree! Marriage is one of the biggest decisions of our lives, if not the biggest!
“Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh” (Genesis 2:24).
A man leaving his former family (not forever) to unite in the most powerful union on earth, marriage. What if we began to become more serious about our “one flesh” union now? What if we were to learn as much as we can now so we can have the marriage that rises above all things, together, as one?!
A marriage that is the envy of our peers!
A marriage that begins to live out promised vows!
The marital union is one of the greatest gifts God has given! Let’s not forget God’s amazing design, your wife. The one God brought down the aisle. The one He hand-made from Adam so they would always be a part of each other! “Therefore what God has joined together let man not separate” (Matthew 19:6). Have you showed how much you appreciate her lately?
What can you do to become a better husband? A better father? A better man?
Author: Erick Hurt
From a slave to sin–to freedom in Christ (Galatians 5:1). From an abusive husband verbally and physically–to loving my wife as Christ loved the church (Ephesians 5:25). Now an Elder at Family Bible Church, I speak, teach, and preach with the same passion I once had for sin. I work as a volunteer for Setting Captives Free ministry as a mentor and mentor coordinator helping people become freed from the grip of sin. Visit www.settingcaptivesfree.com.